October 2018: Self-Regulation

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Emotions start as biological impulses.  What we do with these impulses is within our control.  When we have strong emotions, they cannot be ignored; but they can be managed.  This is called self-regulation, and it can help free us from living as a hostage to our impulses.

The qualities of self regulation are:

  • an inclination towards reflection and thoughtfulness
  • acceptance of uncertainty and change
  • integrity- specifically, the ability to say no to impulsive urges

Self regulation can be an underrated skill, but it is invaluable for numerous reasons:

  • People who maintain control over their emotions, are the ones who can sustain safe, fair environments.  Drama is low and productivity is very high.
  • It can have a ripple effect…more positive attitudes at the top can have an effect on the whole organization.
  • In business, things are constantly changing, so being able to steer clear of snap judgements and focus on next steps can be a competitive advantage.
  • It enhances integrity, which is an incredible asset for any organization.


Self-awareness and self-regulation: Core skills in effective leaders 

“Self-awareness is our ability to accurately perceive the level of skill, knowledge, value and responsibility we use when it comes to our emotions. It gives us the confidence to know who we are and what we have to offer, both personally and professionally.”

Self Regulation: To Feel Better, Focus on What is Important

“Research consistently shows that self-regulation skill is necessary for reliable emotional well being. Behaviorally, self-regulation is the ability to act in your long-term best interest, consistent with your deepest values.”